Your mind is a safe zone. There are no obstacles, limits, or judgments.  Don’t think, plan, or focus on the HOW!  Just think, choose and define the WHAT!  Ask yourself, “What is it that I truly want?” Big or small has no significance in this exercise.  Is your can opener broken? Put it on your list.  Would you love a whirlpool hot tub to unwind at the end of the day?  Put it on your list. This list is for you and you only.  No one will judge it.

Please know, this is not a wish list.  Wishes have the perception of being distant, unrealistic, and unattainable.  Don’t play a mind trick on yourself and sabotage the exercise.  The key is to BELIEVE you can attain the items on your list.  Your choices are not fantasy; they are not out of your reach.  The more you believe you can get them and visualize that you already have them, the more you will attract them to you.  Until one day, you get what you wanted and can cross it off.  I  LOVE crossing items off my want list and I get to do it all the time.

What do you have to lose?

Let’s give it a try. Write up a list and afterward select a few items that you deeply want.  Take a few moments to visualize what it would be like to have it in your hands or in your life.  Revel in it.  Each time you do this, you are bringing it closer to you.

For inspiration and guidance, I have included my current want list.  It is in no particular order of importance and there is no time limit on attainment, unless I choose to apply a specific timeline to one.

Remember, THINK BIG and don’t limit yourself!

• Full-time, consistent, loving, educational daycare/nanny for my daughter Luna
• Large unexpected checks in the mail
• A large pool of clients who receive great results in their careers and lives
• To triple my testimonials
• Receive a high referral rate among my clients
• Expand my professional network
• Speak at national professional conferences
• Write a book on value-based coaching
• Install a new roof
• Install new windows
• Remodel my kitchen
• Remodel my bathroom
• Area rugs for dining room and living room
• A doorbell
• Beautifully landscaped front yard: Started, and in progress
• Patio in the backyard
• A new computer
• A new IPod
• Professional family portraits
• New cooking pots & pans
• Dyson vacuum
• HD Flat screen TV
• Travel to Chicago to visit family & friends
• Spend a week with my mom in PA
• In September, run a 10k in Philadelphia

Have a great time making your own list.  Let me know what you get to cross off!

Until next time,
Boni

On a sheet of paper, draw a line down the center and list all of the current fears you have.  Everything! All the negative chatter in your head that has been nagging you day and night, causing lost sleep and anxiety.  For example “I can’t pay my bills, I owe everyone money, I can’t get a job . . . etc.  These items may be reality for you, but we are not interested in the current state. We want to bring positive change.  Before you can act on something you must visualize what you want in detail.  Just like a radio, if you don’t like what’s on, change the station.  This is how.  On the other side of your list take each negative item and change it to a positive.  This is where real change comes in.

Taking the earlier examples, here is a sample:

Your assignment: Pick an affirmation you created.  One that you really want to bring into your reality.  Say it in the morning and before you go to bed. Now I don’t care how you choose to say it.  Write it down, say it out loud, say it in front of the mirror, but please affirm it to yourself. Then visualize what your life would be like if you lived this statement.  How would you feel inside?

Close your eyes and enjoy these feelings until you are satisfied.  If you are in a difficult place emotionally and find it hard to feel it, then smile with your eyes closed!  This is an easy way to modify your mood.  Smile big, and show some teeth!  I’m pulling for you.  Cause’ when you win, I win, we all win.

Until next time,

Boni